Your Attitude Matters - Part 8

When Position Changes,a Attitude Speaks

Opening: A Quiet Truth About Power

Human relationships often appear stable-built on daily interactions, familiar greetings, and routine respect. Yet, beneath this surface lies a fragile layer that responds instantly to position and authority. When economic or institutional roles shift, attitudes don’t evolve gradually; they switch.

This story is not dramatic. It is unsettling precisely because it is ordinary.

The Case Study

In a reputed school, two coordinators worked together - one at the primary level, the other at the secondary level. Professional boundaries existed, yet daily human warmth flowed naturally. The primary coordinator, respected and authoritative in her role, was greeted every day by the school peon with courtesy and obedience. Instructions were followed without hesitation. Familiarity had become routine.

Due to certain circumstances, the primary coordinator resigned.

Soon after, she visited the school premises. She wished to meet a few colleagues - nothing official, nothing administrative, just human closure.

As she attempted to go upstairs toward the office floor, something unexpected happened.

The same peon who once greeted her daily was now under instruction. He physically blocked her path, using his hands to ensure she did not proceed further. There was no anger, no personal hostility - only enforcement.

She was stunned.

In a calm yet shaken voice, she said, “It’s okay, no problem. I’m leaving. I just wanted to meet some people.”

The response was immediate and procedural:

“Madam, for that you need permission from the authorities.”

In that moment, the relationship didn’t change.

The position did.

Reflections

This incident reveals a subtle but powerful behavioural truth:

• Respect tied to position is fragile.

• Authority travels faster than memory.

• Institutional instructions override personal familiarity.

No villain exists here. No hero either.

Only a system at work - efficient, emotionless, and obedient to hierarchy.

Takeaways

• Attitude often follows power, not people.

• Economic and institutional roles shape behaviour instantly.

• Social bonds weaken the moment authority is withdrawn.

• Awareness of this reality protects us from unnecessary personal hurt.

From the Desk of the Author

I have witnessed many shifts in human behaviour, but the quiet ones disturb the most. This incident stayed with me—not because of what was done, but because of how quickly it felt normal.

Understanding this doesn’t make us cynical; it makes us conscious.

Introspection for Readers

If roles were removed today - titles, authority, access - 

how many relationships in our lives would remain unchanged?

Disclaimer

This case is shared purely for reflective and educational purposes. It does not intend to accuse, blame, or judge any individual or institution. Names, roles, and circumstances are presented to highlight behavioural patterns, not personal conduct.

Rakesh Kushwaha

Mathivation HUB

Where Attitude Meets Awareness