Your Attitude Matters Part 7: Self‑Defense: A Universal Human Fact

Your Attitude Matters – Part 7

Self‑Defense: A Universal Human Fact

Opening: Human Behaviour, Economics & a Mathematical Lens

Classical economics assumes humans act rationally, while real life repeatedly proves otherwise. Behavioural economics steps in to explain this gap -  where instincts, fear, and survival override calculated choice.

In mathematics, differentiation helps us observe a situation at a moment, while integration helps us understand the entire journey. Human attitude works the same way. A single reaction can destroy what long patience and effort have built.

The Story

In ancient traditions, the Swayamvar system was a respected and functional institution. It allowed a woman of marriageable age — often a princess — to choose her life partner based on courage, character, intelligence, or ritual challenges. Youth, elders, and social influencers participated, making it a collective yet dignified decision.

In one such grand ceremony, a wealthy family announced a challenging condition. A pond had been prepared where five vicious, hungry snakes were deliberately released. The declaration was clear:

Whoever dares to jump into the pond and come out alive will earn the right to marry the girl.

Fear spread instantly.

Many brave men stood present, yet none even imagined jumping. The risk was visible, immediate, and potentially fatal. The atmosphere was tense. Observers - the social equivalent of today’s media - watched closely.

Suddenly, a young man jumped into the pond.

Within a fraction of a second, he emerged safely.

The crowd erupted in applause. He was immediately invited to the stage. The girl stood ready with the garland. The moment was historic. The microphone was handed to the young man so he could share his courage and experience.

He took the mic, still shaken, and spoke hurriedly:

“Swayamvar gaya bhaad mein… pehle yeh batao, mujhe dhakka kisne diya?”

(Let the Swayamvar go to hell… first tell me who pushed me!)

The silence that followed was louder than the applause before.

The opportunity was lost.

Reflections

This story captures a sharp truth of human behaviour:

• The act looked heroic.

• The result appeared successful.

• But the attitude revealed fear, not intention.

In mathematical terms:

Differentiation: At that instant, the outcome looked positive - success.

Integration: When the full behaviour was evaluated, the intention collapsed.

Economics rewards outcomes, but society trusts intent + control.

Takeaways

• Self‑defense is a natural instinct, but uncontrolled reaction can undo opportunity.

• Courage without emotional regulation is incomplete.

• One unfiltered statement can negate a lifetime moment.

• True strength lies in response, not reaction.

Disclaimer

This story is shared purely for educational, philosophical, and behavioural reflection. It is symbolic in nature and does not promote risk‑taking, violence, or harmful practices. Cultural references are illustrative, not literal endorsements.

From the Desk of the Author

Life repeatedly teaches that success is not only about crossing the pond, but about how we stand after crossing it. Attitude integrates our actions into meaning.

An Honest Question to Readers

In moments of sudden success or shock, do you react instantly - or respond consciously?

Rakesh Kushwaha

Mathivation HUB

Where Mathematics Meets Life